3x3x3 your way to finding love.

I thought I'd write a short note on my "rule of 3" in new relationships.

Basically, if you want to save hardships caused by staying in a relationship too long, or reengaging with an ex several times before finally making a clean break, follow the rule of three.

Three dates: If you first meet someone, unless totally turned off, give it three dates before you call it off. Sometimes they may grow on you, the first date isn't always the best. After three, if no sparks, bail!

Three months: If after the third date, you decide to pursue; reevaluate after 3 months. If at this point, you're already seeing problems, don't rationalize them away! Cut and run, save time, go find the next one. Ask anybody when they first had doubts about a past failed relationship, and most can trace it back to within the first three months, but often times, years go by before they end the relationship.

Three week break: If you've decided to stay in the relationship, enjoy the next three months before reevaluating again. At the sixth month mark, take a forced three week break. This gives you room to breath, no contact means the emotions can settle and you can view the relationship rationally. If you had doubts before this break, make it a 6 week break. So many people, who know they want out of a relationship, grow weak in the first couple of weeks after a break up, their lonely, they only see the positives of their other half...and many times they go back, only to repeat the process again and again...Be strong, your life is on hold if you're dating someone you don't really want to marry. The break gives you this strength.

This is the short version, much more can be said, many comical stories can be told, but for now...remember the rule of three.

P.S. If someone is having doubts about you in the relationship, and hinting or trying to break-up, LET THEM GO! More than likely you'll lose them in the future anyway, let them go and find someone you don't have to talk into loving you! If you call them while their lonely, they might take you back, but for how long? MOVE ON!